Happy New Year! 2016 is an exciting year ahead for me for three things: 1) My daughter is turning one, 2) I am rebranding my advocacy and launching Book Mobile Phils soon, and 3) this blog will finally be in full swing.
But before I begin to talk about this new year and what it has taught me so far- let me just recap 2015 with this hashtag #Blessed. I began 2015 with a baby bump waiting to pop- and soon after, I did deliver the best gift God has prepared for me, my daughter Aiyah. She was everything 2015 was all about- my life made a total turnaround.
This year, on it’s very first day nonetheless, my daughter has already taught me what I needed to learn for the year ahead.
On Jan 1, my husband and I decided to do a very random trip to Baguio for the New Year weekend. Not really thinking hard about it, we just made sure we had enough money to spend for gas, food and accommodation, packed our bags and off we went. We have been so used to travelling with our daughter, in fact we’ve brought her along with us out of town since she was two and a half months old! But with the New Year comes new challenges- and we didn’t (or I didn’t) see it coming too soon that day, while traveling with a 14-days-to-go-and-I-am-already-ONE-year-old little girl.
1. SCREAM IF YOU HAVE TO
My almost one year old got me screaming so much, as it was very hard to keep her in place for hours. As you know, if you have toddlers, they just keep moving around. She would stand up, dance, lean on the dashboard, look out the window, kick the gear shift, grab the driving wheel, change the radio frequency and so on and so forth. I wished so hard she was just that little girl I could easily put to sleep and transfer in a car seat behind. But no she’s not that anymore!!! I screamed “wag yan,” “tama na,” “ang likot mo,” etcetera etcetera etcetera. I was so stressed out, to be honest. But I saw the light in the midst of all that. After all, I was traveling with a daughter I never even imagined I would ever be given.
As in every new chapter of our lives, we will come across unexpected trials, challenges and stress- there will be days we need to scream our hearts out and let it all go. And it’s alright. It’s alright to scream and get mad sometimes. It is healthy to do so, so don’t stop yourself from doing it. After all the screaming, I’m sure you’ll realize that all that stress wasn’t worth it. There’s always something beautiful that can come out of it anyway.
2. NO MATTER WHAT, ENJOY
For the first time in the last three times we’ve gone up to Baguio with our daughter- she puked on me while we were on the road. Not once, but twice. Naturally, it stressed me out (again), then got me cleaning her first then myself.
But soon after she was cleaned, my daughter instantly goes back to being the bubbly and happy baby that she is. It’s as if nothing happened to her, and she’s back to regular programming.
In this life, we will all be met with embarassing moments, days we wish we never had, or situations very awkward we just want the earth to swallow us whole. But I pray we may be like children- dust it off, get up and enjoy. When I saw my daughter did just that after the two times she puked on me, I realized what a bright future she must have if she grows up having this attitude. I pray that she never loses that joy in spite of and despite everything.
3. SCREW PLANS, BE RANDOM
Since we didn’t really plan on going up to Baguio for the New Year (in fact we left Manila in the afternoon already), we weren’t able to fix the trip itinerary ahead.
Terrible traffic greeted us in Baguio- everywhere we went, it was just TRAFFIC. But because we still wanted to make it a memorable trip since it was our first Baguio trip with just the three of us (first time was with my husband’s family, second was with mine), we went on and roamed around. I also forgot to bring a few things for the trip, but we didn’t stress it out and instead made up for it.
Many times this new year, we will find ourselves planning our lives to every dot. I actually did just that several months ago for my daughter’s upcoming 1st bday (happening in a few days!). I had everything figured out. But I am re-learning thru this recent random Baguio trip- that some plans aren’t meant to be perfectly executed and it’s okay. More than that, we can only plan and pray that everything turns out based on what we prepared ourselves for- but only God knows what will happen and why they have to happen a certain way. So yeah, screw the plans and just go with the flow.
In closing, 2015 was a very challenging but blessed year for me. And these three things our recent trip with our daughter have taught me, resounds well the kind of attitude I must have had the past year so I had less of the drama and stress.
I’m glad, I have a child who can make me see the beauty of the unexpected and makes me look forward to the challenges ahead. So okay, #BringitOn2016, I’m ready for you.